"The supreme good is like water which nourishes all things without trying to. It is content with the low places that people disdain, thus, it is like the Tao. In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don't try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present. When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everybody will respect you."
Less is more. When you are grounded within you can lead others without controlling them. Competing and comparing makes you hard. Giving up competition and analyzing yourself to others makes you soft. Hardening ages you. Softness prolongs life.